Sila







Sila and the purification of the mind

The Gradual Training starts with Sila, or Virtue, which is purifying the mind by letting go of harmful habits, whether in thought, speech, or action. These harmful behaviors, rooted in desire, aversion, and unknowing, create lasting disturbances and block progress on the path.

In the context of the Mundane Eightfold Path, the initial practice of Sila is to get let go of the most damaging behaviors, those that could lead to rebirth in lower states, like the animal realm. This includes behaviors that reduce a person to acting purely on instincts, such as obsessing over food, sex, power, social status, or indulging in harmful acts like killing, stealing, or exploiting the environment without caring about the harm caused.

These coarse afflictions block progress because they cloud our ability to notice and let go of more subtle mental afflictions.

Practicing Sila is the giving up of selfish desires or expectations in our interactions with others, while also letting go of harmful thoughts, speech, or actions driven by aversion or hatred.

By living virtuously and with kindness, we protect both ourselves and others from the worst kinds of stress and dissatisfaction that can arise when we engage with the world through wrong views, wrong intentions, wrong speech, wrong actions, and wrong livelihood.

In the context of the Supramundane or Noble Eightfold Path, the role of Sila shifts. Here, the purpose is to purify the mind so that our actions, speech, and way of living don’t trap us in worldly distractions. It's about elevating our consciousness and freeing ourselves from attachment to the world.

Since the ultimate goal of the Buddha’s teachings is liberation from rebirth, the focus isn't on building stronger relationships, improving social interactions, or finding more meaningful work. Instead, it’s about simplifying, letting go of relationships, habits, and lifestyles, simplifying life to the bare essentials in order to fully dedicate oneself to the practice.

With Right View, we come to understand that desires and expectations in relationships or livelihood can never bring lasting fulfillment. They’re unreliable and will eventually lead to dissatisfaction.

As a result, one gradually simplifies life, letting go of relationships that hinder progress on the path and activities that cause mental disturbances or block spiritual growth.


Sila is the letting go of desires and aversions

At its heart, Sila is about practicing renunciation in how we engage with others, not by trying to change them or the world around us, but by letting go of our own expectations and desires. It also involves letting go of any aversion we feel toward others' behaviors. Instead of wanting people to act in ways that align with our wishes, we recognize that these expectations are simply creations of the mind, with no true basis in reality.

We must also let go of the false belief that others are the cause of our anger, frustration, or irritation. It's easy to think that people or circumstances are responsible for our stress or unhappiness, but in truth, these emotions are produced by our own minds. They stem from deeply ingrained patterns and intentions, rooted in clinging to the Five Aggregates..

Good Will and not taking things personally

It’s hard to let go of attachment to the world when we’re caught up in anger, whether it's directed at ourselves, others, or our circumstances. Cultivating kindness and compassion starts with understanding that we all, including ourselves, struggle with clinging to the Five Aggregates. Anyone who hasn’t reached liberation is acting from desire, aversion, and unknowing.

We come to realize that our perceptions, emotions, and thoughts aren’t always trustworthy, and it’s normal for people to jump to wrong conclusions because they’re not seeing reality clearly.

Since we’re all influenced by craving, aversion, and unknowing, it becomes easier not to take things personally. We begin to understand that people’s actions, like our own, are shaped by their past experiences and conditions.

We can never fully know what someone else has been through, so any judgment we make comes from a place of not knowing. Likewise, taking things personally is another kind of misunderstanding because no one is intentionally doing something to us. Even when people act in harmful ways, it’s often driven by their own inner pain, shaped by greed, anger, or unknowing.

For example, someone who has experienced abuse or hardship may develop harmful patterns or unhealthy ways of interacting with the world. That’s why compassion and kindness are so important, for both ourselves and others.

When you see someone struggling or making unwise choices, remember that you, too, have probably made similar mistakes, whether in this life or a past one. So, instead of judging, it’s wiser to recognize that everyone is affected by desire, aversion, and unknowing.


Judging Others

One of the key goals of practicing Sila is to let go of judgment and accept people as they are. It’s important to remember that when we judge others, what we’re really seeing are our own Five Aggregates at work. In other words, when we experience negative emotions, thoughts, or actions toward others, it’s actually a reflection of the preconceived notions stored in our memory, re-cognized through the Five Aggregates.

So, when you notice greed, anger, or aversion in others, what you're really seeing is your own mind projecting through the Five Aggregates.


Conceit

One of the biggest obstacles on the Gradual Training is overcoming conceit. Conceit is rooted in ignorance and attachment to the idea of a "self." It manifests as pride, arrogance, or self-centeredness and stems from our past experiences in the animal realm.

Conceit leads us to constantly compare ourselves to others, either feeling superior, inferior, or even equal in a way that reinforces a sense of self. This habit of comparison causes the mind to judge others, leading to feelings of entitlement or dissatisfaction.

Conceit is tied to the belief that we are distinct, separate beings whose worth is defined by how we measure up to others. It creates judgment and division, making us look down on others or feel insecure. Whether this sense of self-importance inflates or diminishes our ego, it keeps us trapped in suffering, driven by desires and aversions. This, in turn, leads to wrong speech, wrong actions, and wrong livelihood.

The roots of conceit go back to our past existences in the animal world, where social hierarchies was essential for survival. For instance:

While this concept of hierarchy was necessary for survival in the animal realm, in the human realm, conceit, expressed as pride or arrogance, no longer serves a wholesome purpose. Instead, it must be overcome in order to achieve higher states of being.

To truly progress on the path, we must abandon all judgments about what is good or bad in the world. When practicing Sila, we must learn to see everyone as equals and stop comparing ourselves to others, whether by feeling superior or inferior. Overcoming conceit means releasing the need to place ourselves above or below anyone else, allowing us to move closer to a more peaceful and liberated state of mind.


Blame

At the very gross level, the self-sabotaging aspect of the ego (conceit) makes people blame others for their negative experiences and prevents them from seeing that their own mind is the cause of the problem. For example, you may find yourself arguing with others, insisting you're right and they're wrong. This is rooted in arrogance, where you're pushy, forceful, and expect others to agree with your way of thinking.


Wanting respect

You may perceive or think of others in degrading or disrespectful ways.

Or the ego might have expectation of being treated a certain way. The mind may think, "I deserve respect, and who are you to treat me this way?" This reflects the belief that one is superior, which is rooted in pride.

There are more subtle ways in which conceipt may manifest:


Unsolicited advice

When you give unsolicited advice, that's ego taking over. It's important to stay humble and restrain the mind, even when you notice others making unwise decisions. If you're free from craving and desire for others to act a certain way, you can understand that their mistakes are their own. Even if we have the good intention to help them, more than likely they will not be open to advice, and may even blame you for getting in the way.

If their actions could effect or harm you, you can quietly remove yourself without the need to point out their errors. There is no need to justify why you don't want to be involved in their actions. Offering unsolicited advice or arguing to prove you're right is driven by arrogance and pride.


Lifestyle

One might have developed a certain lifestyle and expect others to follow their example, This often leads to feelings of frustration, anger, or agitation when they don't. For example the mind may take pride in doing wholesome things: practicing right speech, meditating, or living a certain way, and start to judge others for not doing the same.

This comparison creates arrogance and disrupts harmonious relationships, as the ego expects everyone to act as you do. True understanding comes when you realize that everyone lives the way they have chosen, and there’s no need for comparison or judgment. Letting go of these expectations allows the ability to see people as they are.

A liberated person has let go of any dislike toward others and eliminated cravings and expectations for how people should act or be, without needing them to change.

If someone dislikes you, you'll understand that their feelings reflect their own mental state rather than your worth. It would be unwise to change your behavior just to gain their approval, as that would be driven by your own cravings and attachments. Instead, it's better to be free from the need for validation from others.

The core issue is that a strong ego leads to closed-mindedness, creating the false belief that you already know everything. This mindset hinders your ability to truly penetrate the Dhamma and understand deeper truths.


Establishing Right View

As we approach any situation, it’s important to begin with Right View, recognizing that interactions with others often carry potential challenges. We need to be mindful not to cling to judgments or expectations, as this leads to distress and dissatisfaction.

That’s why it's essential to stay aware of our thoughts, speech, and actions, consistently reflecting on them to ensure they are skillful and wholesome.

The Gradual Training begins with Right Speech, Right Action, and Right Livelihood because these address the most harmful afflictions. They also give us the space to pause and evaluate our intentions, allowing us to stop harmful impulses before they manifest in harmful ways.

Practicing Sila requires mindfulness of our thoughts, words, and deeds. We must regularly ask ourselves, "Why am I thinking this?" "Why am I saying this?" or "Why am I doing this?" If the potential outcome of these could harm ourselves or others, we should either adjust our approach or abandon the action altogether.

When interacting with others, mindfulness helps us notice any tension or tightness in the mind or body, indicators that we may be clinging to the interaction, whether through expectation or aversion.

Unskillful interactions often leave behind lingering thoughts, distress, or dissatisfaction. These moments serve as opportunities for reflection and correction, helping us adjust our approach to ensure that future interactions are more skillful and don't cause lasting disturbances in the mind.

By strict self-discipline, one ensures that no unskillful thoughts, speech, and actions will cause us to become entangled in the external world. Success in self-discipline brings confidence and peace of mind that one has never known before.


Good conduct leads to non-regret, to joy, and so on all the way to liberation:



Precepts are not Rules

It's important to look at virtue and the precepts not as rules, which is a form of clinging, but as a continual practice.

History is filled with people blindly believing they are a "a good person" yet justify wars and untold suffering in the name of "good". For this reason, we should not look at lying, stealing, killing, drinking, and sexual misconduct as simple concepts or attributes. But understand how their application needs to be skillfully adapted based on the unlimited circumstances one might encounter.

Practicing virtue is protection from getting tangled in wordly matters. It allows us to renounce the world, without hating the world. Its also one of the best ways to train the mind, as one must constantly be mindful if their own and others actions are tainted by greed, aversion, and unknowing.

Practicing virtue is also the best way to judge our progress on the path, as we can evaluate the amount of clinging, aversion, and unknowing that manifests in difficult situations, when we interact with difficult people.

For example, without encountering annoying individuals, how can we develop patience? It's through others triggering our "buttons" or testing our tolerance that we uncover the greed, aversion and clinging to expectations that still exist within us.

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And what, are the qualities that make one a contemplative, that make one liberated?

We will be endowed with shame (at the idea of wrong-doing) & compunction (for the consequences of wrong-doing): That’s how you should train yourselves.

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The Tathagata encourages the desciples to live up to their name, by actually practicing in a way that meets or exceeds the expectations people have for renunciants:



Right Speech

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And what is the right speech that is accompanied by defilements, partakes of merit, and ripens in attachment?

Abstaining from false speech, abstaining from slanderous speech, abstaining from harsh speech, abstaining from frivolous chatter: this is the right speech that is accompanied by defilements, partakes of merit, and ripens in attachment.

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And what is the right speech that is noble, undefiled, supramundane, a factor of the path?

It is the abstaining, refraining, abstinence, avoidance by a noble one whose mind is noble, whose mind is undefiled, who is fully possessed of the noble path, and who is developing the noble path, from the four kinds of verbal misconduct.

MN117

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And how is one made impure in four ways by verbal action? There is the case where a certain person tells lies. When he has been called to a town meeting, a group meeting, a gathering of his relatives, his guild, or of the royalty [i.e., a royal court proceeding], if he is asked as a witness, ‘Come & tell, good man, what you know’: If he doesn’t know, he says, ‘I know.’ If he does know, he says, ‘I don’t know.’ If he hasn’t seen, he says, ‘I have seen.’ If he has seen, he says, ’I haven’t seen.’ Thus he consciously tells lies for his own sake, for the sake of another, or for the sake of a certain reward.

He engages in divisive speech. What he has heard here he tells there to break those people apart from these people here. What he has heard there he tells here to break these people apart from those people there. Thus breaking apart those who are united and stirring up strife between those who have broken apart, he loves factionalism, delights in factionalism, enjoys factionalism, speaks things that create factionalism.

He engages in harsh speech. He speaks words that are insolent, cutting, mean to others, reviling others, provoking anger and destroying concentration. He engages in idle chatter. He speaks out of season, speaks what isn’t factual, what isn’t in accordance with the goal, the Dhamma, & the Vinaya, words that are not worth treasuring. This is how one is made impure in four ways by verbal action.

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If his mind inclines to speaking, he thinks: I will not engage in talk that is low, vulgar, common, ignoble, unconnected to the goal, not leading to disenchantment, dispassion, cessation, calm, direct knowledge, enlightenment, Nibbana, such as talk of kings, robbers, ministers, armies, dangers, wars, food, drink, clothing, beds, garlands, scents, relatives, vehicles, villages, towns, cities, countries, women, heroes, street talk, well talk, talk of the dead, miscellaneous talk, talk of being, talk of the sea, and various kinds of talk like this.

Thus he is fully aware there. And if his mind inclines to speaking, he thinks: I will engage in talk that is connected to the goal, leading to disenchantment, dispassion, cessation, calm, direct knowledge, enlightenment, Nibbana, such as talk of few desires, contentment, seclusion, non-entanglement, arousing energy, virtue, concentration, wisdom, liberation, knowledge and vision of liberation.

Thus he is fully aware there. If his mind inclines to thoughts, he thinks: I will not think thoughts that are low, vulgar, common, ignoble, unconnected to the goal, not leading to disenchantment, dispassion, cessation, calm, direct knowledge, enlightenment, Nibbana, such as thoughts of sensuality, ill-will, and harm.

Thus he is fully aware there. And he thinks: I will think thoughts that are noble and lead outwards, leading to the complete destruction of suffering, such as thoughts of renunciation, non-ill-will, and non-harm.

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Wrong speech

False Speech

The primary issue with false speech is that when we deceive others, we are also more likely to deceive ourselves. How can we purify our minds if we've convinced ourselves that our unwholesome actions are actually wholesome? Or if we’ve persuaded ourselves that we haven’t caused harm, or that we don’t need to further develop our virtue?

It’s crucial to understand that false speech carries real consequences and leads to unwholesome results. For example, people who lie frequently must keep track of the details of their lies, constantly remembering what they told one person and what they told another. This creates a mental burden, a kind of background tension that never truly goes away.

It becomes impossible to experience a peaceful and joyful mind if it's always preoccupied with managing and maintaining falsehoods.

On a deeper level, false speech prevents us from genuinely penetrating the Dharma and seeing our own mind clearly. When we are not honest with ourselves or others, we cloud our ability to understand the truth, making it harder to progress on the path.

Iidle speech

Idle speech refers to purposeless chatter driven by the craving for attention and the desire to be heard. By practicing restraint and avoiding idle talk, we reduce the amount of mental noise and disturbances in our life.

Slander or gossip, on the other hand, involves damaging someone's reputation out of ego or craving, mistakenly believing that by making someone else look bad, we will look better. This mindset is unwise, as harming others does nothing to improve our own position. In fact, it traps us further, as we may feel the need to constantly defend our actions, often leading to more false speech or stories to justify why the other person deserves the harsh words or gossip. This cycle only deepens entanglement in unwholesome actions and thoughts.

Harsh speech

Harsh speech often arises when others don't meet our expectations, especially in relationships where attachments are strongest, such as with family or life partners. It's challenging to avoid harsh words with those we care about most because we tend to want them to behave in certain ways. In contrast, it’s easier to be kind to people we aren't attached to, as we don’t hold the same expectations of them.

To eliminate harsh speech, we must address the underlying craving and attachment. It involves training the mind to speak gently, being mindful of tone, tempo, and the words we choose. This is a gradual process that requires patience, restraint, and consistent practice in our daily interactions.


Think

Delson

So, there's a good acronym that you can use to understand right speech, and that is THINK. THINK before you speak.

"T" is for timeliness; is it the right time to say what you want to say? Sometimes it's not the right time. If it's not the proper time to talk, don't proceed. The proper time involves not interrupting people, ensuring your mind is ready to talk, and making sure the other person's mind is ready to talk.

If you're angry, frustrated, or agitated, it's not the proper time to talk. Similarly, if the other person is angry, frustrated, or agitated, it's not the proper time to talk. You can't fix their anger because what's causing their anger is their craving, desire, and attachment. They have to fix it themselves by letting go of their craving.

"H is for honesty; do you know what you're going to say is true? If you don't know, you could say, "I'm not sure." I'm not sure if this is true or not, but this is what has been told to me.

"I" is for intention. What is the intention behind what you want to say? Is it a wholesome intention or an unwholesome intention? Is it to bring people up or to bring people down? What is the intention?

"N" is for necessity. Is it necessary for you to say what you have to say? Is it for their benefit, your benefit, or the benefit of both?

Ensuring that your speech is beneficial means being clear, concise, and precise in your communication, rather than focusing solely on the topic. The key is to avoid idle or frivolous speech and to focus on communicating effectively, ensuring your words have purpose and contribute to the conversation.

"K" is kindness. Can you infuse whatever you're going to say with kindness?

Someone said, "What if we have to reprimand someone? What if we have to scold our children? What if we have to give a talking to our employees?" They said you can shout at them, you can be stern with them, but can you do it with loving kindness? Because the speech can be harsh, but it can also be beneficial. The speech could sound harsh, ironic, or sarcastic, but it's getting through to the person. The intention behind it is not to harm the person, but to motivate them to come out of their procrastination or bad behavior.


Unskillful Mental Action

“And how is one made impure in three ways by mental action? There is the case where a certain person is covetous. He covets the belongings of others, thinking, ‘O, that what belongs to others would be mine!’ He bears ill will, corrupt in the resolves of his heart: ‘May these beings be killed or cut apart or crushed or destroyed, or may they not exist at all!’ He has wrong view, is warped in the way he sees things: ‘There is nothing given, nothing offered, nothing sacrificed. There is no fruit or result of good or bad actions. There is no this world, no next world, no mother, no father, no spontaneously reborn beings; no contemplatives or brahmans who, faring rightly & practicing rightly, proclaim this world & the next after having directly known & realized it for themselves.’ This is how one is made impure in three ways by mental action.


Right Action

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And what is right action?

Abstaining from taking life, from stealing, & from sexual misconduct: This is called right action.

“And how is one made impure in three ways by bodily action? There is the case where a certain person takes life, is brutal, bloody-handed, devoted to killing & slaying, showing no mercy to living beings. He takes what is not given. He takes, in the manner of a thief, things in a village or a wilderness that belong to others and have not been given by them. He engages in sexual misconduct. He gets sexually involved with those who are protected by their mothers, their fathers, their brothers, their sisters, their relatives, or their Dhamma; those with husbands, those who entail punishments, or even those crowned with flowers by another man. This is how one is made impure in three ways by bodily action."


Right Livelihood

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And what is right livelihood?

There is the case where a disciple of the noble ones, having abandoned dishonest livelihood, keeps his life going with right livelihood: This is called right livelihood.

“And what more is to be done? Our livelihood will be pure, clear & open, unbroken & restrained. We will not exalt ourselves nor disparage others on account of that pure livelihood: That’s how you should train yourselves. Now the thought may occur to you, We are endowed with shame & compunction. Our bodily conduct is pure. Our verbal conduct… our mental conduct is pure. Our livelihood is pure. That much is enough, that much means we’re done, so that the goal of our contemplative state has been reached. There’s nothing further to be done, and you may rest content with just that. So I tell you. I exhort you. Don’t let those of you who seek the contemplative state fall away from the goal of the contemplative state when there is more to be done."








A Basic Order in Life

Upāsikā Kee Nanayon

The most important thing in the daily life of a person who practices the Dhamma is to keep to the precepts (sila) and to care for them more than you care for your life, to maintain them in a way that the Noble Ones would praise. If you don’t have this sort of regard for the precepts, then the vices that run counter to them will become your everyday habits.

Practitioners who see that the breaking of a precept is something trifling and insignificant spoil their entire practice. If you can’t practice even these basic, beginning levels of the Dhamma, it will ruin all the qualities you’ll be trying to develop in the later stages of the practice. This is why you have to stick to the precepts as your basic foundation and to keep a lookout for anything in your behavior that falls short of them. Only then will you be able to benefit from your practice for the sake of eliminating your sufferings with greater and greater precision.

If you simply act in line with the cravings and desires swelling out of the sense of self that has no fear of the fires of defilement, you’ll have to suffer both in this life and in lives to come. If you don’t have a sense of conscience, a sense of shame at the thought of doing shoddy actions, and a fear of their consequences, your practice can only deteriorate day by day.

When people live without any order to their lives, without even the basic order that comes with the precepts, there’s no way they can attain purity. We have to examine ourselves: In what ways at present are we breaking our precepts in thought, word, or deed? If we simply let things pass and aren’t intent on examining ourselves to see the harm that comes from breaking the precepts and following the defilements, our practice can only sink lower and lower. Instead of extinguishing defilements and suffering, it will simply succumb to the power of craving. If this is the case, what damage is done? How much freedom does the mind lose? These are things we have to learn for ourselves. When we do, our practice of self-inspection in higher matters will get solid results and won’t go straying off into nonsense. For this reason, whenever craving or defilement shows itself in any way in any of our actions, we have to catch hold of it and examine what’s going on inside the mind.

Once we’re aware with real mindfulness and discernment, we’ll see the poison and power of the defilements. We’ll feel disgust for them and want to extinguish them as much as we can. But if we use our defilements to examine things, they’ll say everything is fine. The same as when we’re predisposed to liking a certain person: Even if he acts badly, we say he’s good. If he acts wrongly, we say he’s right. This is the way the defilements are. They say that everything we do is right and throw all the blame on other people, other things. So we can’t trust it, this sense of “self” in which craving and defilement lord it over the heart. We can’t trust it at all.

The violence of defilement, or this sense of self, is like that of a fire burning a forest or burning a house. It won’t listen to anyone, but simply keeps burning away, burning away inside of you. And that’s not all. It’s always out to set fire to other people, too.

The fires of suffering, the fires of defilement consume all those who don’t contemplate themselves or who don’t have any means of practice for putting them out. People of this sort can’t withstand the power of the defilements, can’t help but follow along wherever their cravings lead them. The moment they’re provoked, they follow in line with these things. This is why the sensations in the mind when provoked by defilement are very important, for they can lead you to do things with no sense of shame, no fear for the consequences of doing evil at all, which means that you’re sure to break your precepts.

Once you’ve followed the defilements, they feel really satisfied, like arsonists who feel gleeful when they’ve set other people’s places on fire. As soon as you’ve called somebody something vile or spread some malicious gossip, the defilements really like it. Your sense of self really likes it, because acting in line with defilement like that gives it real satisfaction. As a consequence, it keeps filling itself with the vices that run counter to the precepts, falling into hell in this very lifetime without realizing it. So take a good look at the violence the defilements do to you, to see whether you should keep socializing with them, to see whether you should regard them as your friends or your enemies.

As soon as any wrong views or ideas come out of the mind, we have to analyze them and turn around so as to catch sight of the facts within us. No matter what issues the defilements raise, focusing on the faults of others, we have to turn around and look within. When we realize our own faults and can come to our senses: That’s where our study of the Dhamma, our practice of the Dhamma, shows its real rewards.


The Great Power in Keeping the Precepts

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So, what is the power in keeping the precepts?

First and foremost, it starts to bring stability to your mind, tranquility to your mind, and a level of clarity to your mind, which is in preparation for practice. So, when we start to keep the precepts, the hindrances in our minds start to reduce because each precept or the breaking of each precept has a correspondence to one of the five hindrances.

When we kill or harm other living beings, we bring up the hindrance or cultivate the hindrance of ill will.

When we take what is not given, we cultivate the hindrance of restlessness.

When we indulge in sexual misconduct or sensual misconduct, we strengthen the hindrance of sensual desire.

When we use false speech, we cultivate the hindrance of doubt.

And then, when we indulge in intoxicants, we cultivate the hindrance of sloth and torpor.

So, when we start to refrain from breaking these precepts, those hindrances start to reduce. But as we start to keep these precepts over time, we start to notice in ourselves a certain kind of change and a certain kind of magnetism, charisma, and power that's there in our minds.

For example, when we keep the first precept, abstaining from killing and harming living beings, what happens? We start to attract the right kind of people in our lives in line for the purposes in our lives. People want to be around us, people want to know more about us, people want to engage with us, people want to do business or have relationships with us, or whatever it might be. We create that sort of aura when we have maintained keeping that first precept for a long period of time.

When we keep the second precept, when we don't steal, when we stop taking things that are not ours away from others, more is given to us. We notice that in our minds or in our lives, things that are required in that exact moment are given to us. Whatever it is, resources, money, a flight, books, shelter, it is given to us exactly when we require it. And you start to notice that the universe starts to take care of you in that sense. You don't have to worry about things, you don't have to worry about resources, and what am I going to do when I reach this place or that place.

Everything starts to fall into place for us when we keep the precept of abstaining from sensual or sexual misconduct. What happens is that our mind becomes much clearer. It is an art to notice that the things we might want start to manifest. This is very closely related to the second in the sense that not only are things provided for us or given to us whenever we need them, but if there is something that we want, it is also given to us. It may take a little time, but it manifests in its own way, and we don't have to worry about it.

There's a level of clarity in our minds when we keep the fourth precept. People have a lot of confidence in us, and we have a level of inner confidence, self-confidence, and the ability to influence others for wholesome purposes. What we say comes true; whatever we think and whatever we say comes to be.

This is known in the Indic religions or traditions of ancient India as Vak Siddhi. Vak means voice; you utter something, and it happens. This happens when you keep the fourth precept.

When you keep the fifth precept, it creates a level of stillness in your mind that is immediately approachable and accessible. You're never tired, bored, or looking for this or that. Your mind is steady all the time, and wherever you incline your mind, it goes there. Whatever you want your mind to do, it does it. There's no trying to reboot, thinking about this or that, or making an effort. You just incline your mind to something, and it goes there.

This is the power of virtue, the power of Sila. As a result, it leads to non-regret, which translates to what is known as Pamo, gladness in the Dharma. Having gladness because you have come to the true Dharma for yourself, you have seen that this practice is starting to have an uplifting quality to your mind, and you become more at ease.

You feel gladdened by words of the Dharma, happy when you hear a Dhamma talk or read a Sutta, or when you're sitting, meditating, and reflecting on the Dharma. From this Pamo, you have what is known as Piti or joy. This joy can be experienced as exuberant or excited, but it doesn't have to be.


Pure & Simple

Upāsikā Kee Nanayon

The first requirement when you come to practice is that you need to be the sort of person who loves the truth, and you need to possess endurance to do what’s true. Only then will your practice get anywhere. Otherwise, it all turns into failure and you go back to being a slave to your defilements and cravings just as before.

When you don’t contemplate yourself, how much suffering do you cause for yourself? And how much do you cause for others? These are things we should contemplate as much as we can. If we don’t, we keep trying to get, get, get. We don’t try to let go, to put things aside, to make any sacrifices at all. We just keep trying to get, for the more we get, the more we want.

If you’re greedy and stingy, then even if you have loads of money the Buddha says you’re poor: poor in noble treasures, poor in the treasures of the mind. Even if you have lots of external wealth, when you die it all goes to other people, it turns into common property, but you yourself are left poor in virtue, poor in the Dhamma.

The mind without its own home, a mind without the Dhamma as its home, has to live with the defilements. This defilement arises and the mind goes running after it. As soon as it disappears, that one arises over there, and the mind goes running after that. Because the mind has no dwelling of its own, it has to keep running wild all over the place.

Practicing to put an end to defilement and suffering is a high level of practice, so you first have to clear the ground and put it in good order. Don’t think that you can practice without any preparation…. If you live for your appetites, all you can think of is getting things for the sake of your appetites. If you don’t develop a sense of contentment or a sense of shame on the beginning level, it’ll be hard to practice the higher levels.

The important part of the practice lies in contemplating. If you don’t contemplate, discernment won’t arise. The Buddha taught us to contemplate and test things to the point where we can clearly know for ourselves. Only then will we have a proper refuge. He never taught us to take refuge in things we ourselves can’t see or do.

If you truly want to gain release from suffering, you have to practice truly, you have to make a true effort. You have to let go, starting with outward things and working inward. You have to free yourself from the delusion that falls for delicious allures of every kind.

The important point in letting go is to see the drawbacks of what you’re letting go. Only then can you let it go once and for all. If you don’t see its drawbacks, you’ll still be attached and will miss having it around.

If you’re going to let go of anything, you first have to see its drawbacks. If you just tell yourself to let go, let go, the mind won’t easily obey. You really have to see the drawbacks of the thing you’re holding onto, and then the mind will let go, of its own accord. It’s like grabbing hold of fire: When you feel the heat, you let go of your own accord and will never dare grasp it again.

It’s hard to see the drawbacks of sensual passion, but even harder to see the drawbacks of more subtle things, like your sense of self.

On the beginning level of the practice you have to learn how to control yourself in the area of your words and deeds, in other words, on the level of virtue, so that you can keep your words and deeds stable, calm and restrained. In this way, the mind won’t follow the power of the crude defilements. When violent urges arise, you stop them first with your powers of endurance. After you’ve been able to endure for a while, your insight will gain the strength it needs to develop a sense of right and wrong, and in this way you’ll see the worth of endurance, that it really is a good thing.

When you do good, let it be good in line with nature. Don’t latch onto the thought that you’re good. If you get attached to the idea that you’re good, it will give rise to lots of other attachments.

When a mind without pride or conceit gets a scolding, it shrinks back like a cow hit by a stick. Your sense of self will disappear right before your eyes. A good cow, even it sees only the shadow of the whip or the stick, stays still and composed, ready to do quickly what it’s told. A meditator who can reduce her pride and conceit is sure to make progress and will have nothing heavy to weigh down her mind. The mind will be still and empty, free from any attachment to me or mine. This is how the mind grows empty.

If you’re the sort of person who’s open and honest, you’ll find your window for disbanding suffering and defilement right where you’re honest with yourself, right where you come to your senses. You don’t have to go explaining high level Dhamma to anyone. All you need is the ordinary level of being honest with yourself about the sufferings and drawbacks of your actions, so that you can put a stop to them, so that you develop a sense of wariness, a sense of shame. That’s much better than talking about high-level Dhamma but then being heedless, complacent, and shameless.

When you look back to the past, you see that it’s all an affair of your own heedlessness. Even though you knew the Buddha’s teachings and were able to explain them correctly, still the heart and mind were in a state of heedlessness. Actually, when people know a lot of Dhamma and can show off a lot of their knowledge, they can be more heedless than people who know only a little. Those who’ve never read Dhamma books tend to be more heedful, for they’re more modest and know that they need to read their own minds all the time. Those who’ve read a lot of books or heard a lot of talks tend to get complacent. And in this way they become heedless and disrespectful of the Dhamma.

We have to figure out how to use our own mindfulness and discernment to look inwardly at all times, for no one else can know these things or see these things for us. We have to know for ourselves.

When things are weak and watery, they flow away. When they’re solid they don’t flow. When the mind is weak and devoid of strength, it’s always ready to flow away like water. But when the mind is endowed with mindfulness and discernment, when it’s solid and true in its effort, it can withstand the flow of the defilements.



Sutta Study


A wealthy man dies childless, having not enjoyed his riches. The Tathagata says that wealth should be properly enjoyed and shared:



There are four qualities are desirable, agreeable, and pleasing but hard to obtain in the world. Accomplishment in faith, accomplishment in virtue, accomplishment in generosity, and accomplishment in wisdom:



The Tathagata encounters a young man who honors his dead parents by performing rituals. The Tathagata recasts the meaningless rites in terms of virtuous conduct. This is the most detailed discourse on ethics for lay people:



A virtuous person need not make a wish; it is natural for the path to flow on:



Topics that are worthy regularly reflecting on, whether as a lay person or a disciple:



Four areas where the Realized One has nothing to hide, and three ways he is irreproachable:



The ten dhammas that protect one from suffering: